This proverbial line describes a very commonly experienced fact of life, especially in the modern times. Although it is an age old reality, it is more prominently observed in last few decades. With the advancement of technology, degeneration of values and pollution of culture, its gravity is increasing day-by-day.
The stanza reads as follows:-
उपदेशो हि मूर्खाणाम् Advice rendered to a stupid or undeserving person.
प्रकोपाय न शान्तये results in his anger. (resistance) and not in peace.
पय:पानं भुजङ्गानां If you feed milk to a snake,
केवलं विषवर्धनम् It only adds to its poison.
This is from Panchtantra (1.420) and Hitopadesh 3.4
There is another version of this shloka –
उपकारोSपि नीचानाम् Help offered to a bad person,
अपकारो हि जायते Is taken otherwise by him (he treats it as a trouble with bad motive.
पय:पानं भुजङ्गानां केवलं विषवर्धनम् !
If any of the readers has not experienced this, please do try it!
Addicted people, drunkards, gamblers, gundas, hooligans, uneducated (uncivilised) people, will never listen to your sound advice. If you advise corrupt people to give up bad practices, they will either ridicule you or frown upon you. If people are unnecessarily quarrelling or fighting on the streets or even in a crowded compartment of a local train and if you request them to stop quarrelling and to ‘forget it’, they will first ask you not to interfere. They may even try to drag you into the dispute or react violently against you. Members in a co-operative housing society are behaving with complete non-co-operation. A trouble making member will raise disputes and will never mend his ways. No consultant can improvethis situation. If you ask naughty or mischievous children to behave themselves, they will react the opposite way.
If anyone advises our neighbouring countries to focus on their own development rather than causing destruction to India or promoting terrorism, they will on the contrary, increase their attempts to cause harm to India. Even if they are in utter poverty, they will import weapons to wage a war against us!
In our epics, Ravana, Duryodhana, other demons/villains are a classic example of this truth. Ravana did not listen to the advice of Bibheeshana to give Seeta back to Ram. Ravana drove him away from his kingdom. Duryodhana did not heed to the advice of Vidura and other elderly persons. Such good advice hardens their ego.
Today’s youth is more obsessed with social media, drugs, movies and many bad things. Our family system is cracking today. Husband wife relations are getting destroyed. The bonding between all relations is breaking. Break-ups and divorces are very common. The couple does not realise the importance of togetherness. They are often short sighted or excessively career oriented, materialistic, ambitious, egoistic, selfish and uncompromising. They cannot digest ‘adjustment’. The counselling has not much impact. If you try to advise them, they will ask you to mind your own business, saying that it is their personal matter. They don’t realise that when such things become rampant, it is no longer a personal matter but a great social menace!
The only solution is the strong moral culture ‘sanskaras’. In today’s rat race, the sanskaaras of parents and teachers are losing efficacy. A narrow minded, individualistic and self-centred approach is developing and people are immune to any words of wisdom. Thus the bhujangas (snakes) in the guise of ‘qualified’ money making machines are increasing. They will improve when they themselves realise it; but not on anyone’s advice!