Bust that stress

• First, find out what’s causing the stress. A relationship issue, financial
  loss, failure, an accident or a change that’s not necessarily negative, like
  shifting to a new house, a mar-riage or a long trip can be the source. Some
  common stressors are a violent parent or spouse, a bullying boss, being
  trapped in a bad marriage or job, excessive workload or responsibilities, a
  medical illness or chronic pain, or memories from a trauma, like sexual abuse.

•  It’s equally important to become aware of your individual coping style. Find
  out what you perceive as the cause of stress and how you’re emotionally
  responding it.

• Once identified, you need to evaluate how many changes you could incorporate
  in your environment and even in yourself. The assessment has to be honest and
  realistic. You can seek advice from within the family or friends or take
  professional help.

• Learn to tell the difference between facts and fears. You can only deal with
  reality and then treat your fears.

• Don’t constantly micromanage, Learn to accept uncertainty and your limitations
  in certain situations.

• Know your limits — don’t be too competitive or expect too much of yourself.

• Avoid comparing your finances and happiness with those who are better off.

• Accept offers of practical help. Don’t hesitate to reach out and talk to
  someone.

• Try to spend time with people who are rewarding rather than critical and
  judgmental.

• Learn time management and relaxation techniques. Exercise !

(Inputs from
Dr. Bharat R. Shah, Psychiatrist, Lilavati Hospital, Mumbai)

(Source :
The Times of India, 25-5-2008)