The most cunning deception is self deception

• Are we conscious of our failings?
• Do we accept our mistakes?
• Do we accept reality ?
• Do we fantasise that we are right knowing we are wrong ?

Believe me, I am not against dreaming – I believe that unless we dream we cannot achieve. Dreaming of what I want is part of the process of achieving success. Let us never undermine the power of thought. It has virtually been said by every philosopher that, “we are what we think“. However, in my view, there is a difference between dreaming and fantasising. Dreaming is reality – whilst dreaming I am still grounded in reality – whereas whilst fantasising, I am absolutely devoid of reality. When we accept our mistakes and make amends, that is reality. However, when we fantasise that we are not wrong and justify our actions, we are, I repeat, devoid of reality. We are in fact deceiving ourselves and it is this deception that makes us wrongly justify on what we do.

This is our biggest failure and believe me, deception is an impediment to success. The first step to success is accepting oneself, which means to stop deceiving ourself. Hence, once one stops deceiving oneself, one is on the road to success and happiness is what we all seek.

I must confess that most of the time when I put on a mask, it is to hide my emotions with the intention of not hurting others. I have still not learnt the art of being politely blunt and frank. Learning is a life long process and I am making a conscious effort to be politely frank which should obviate the need to put on a mask.

The basic issue is: has the author stopped deceiving himself? The answer has been on this road and is still on this road. To a considerable extent the author lives in reality, accepts reality and moves on and I am sure a day will dawn when the mask will be fully torn and he will exist in reality and there will be no self deception.

The aim and purpose of life, not only of KC but all of us: stop deceiving ourselves and be happy.